Anybody searching for information on 'dating tips' on the Internet today is bound to find themselves spoilt for choice as to where exactly to get it, as there are simply too many websites offering a great variety of 'dating tips' to choose from But one glaring weakness about almost all of these 'dating tips' resources is that they seem to have been made with the stereotype that the only person who could be possibly looking for tips on dating is the young adult - or at the very oldest the person in midlife - meaning that there are very few resources offering dating tips for senior citizens.
The lack of resources offering dating tips for senior citizens is referred to as a glaring weakness given that we are living in an age when many people in their later years of life are increasingly finding themselves thrust once again (or even in some rare cases for the very first time) right into the dating game. Surely, someone should think of providing some dating tips for senior citizens, given that someone else is bound to be looking for exactly that: dating tips for senior citizens. So to get us started in that direction then, here are some 7 dating tips for senior citizens, quite briefly stated.
1. Starting by working on your relationship with yourself as a prelude to launching yourself into the dating scene. You surely cannot have enough love to share with another person if you don't have enough love for yourself first.' Remember, when going searching for a date in your later years (as indeed at any point in your life) you are not looking for a person to give you love, but rather for a person with whom to share the love you already have within yourself.
2. Work on your self confidence as this will certainly be put to test when you get into the dating field. Remember beyond pheromones, there is little else but confidence that can make us attractive to other people that subconscious level which makes true love possible.
3. Read widely and making an effort to know what is happening all around you. After all, you will certainly need material to fill your conversations during the dates you will be going to - or at least to make sense of what is said during such conversations. Consequently, if you don't have anything to talk about (or if you cannot make sense of what your mate is speaking about), then you could find yourself coming across as boring or disinterested in your date, which could lead to failure of your dates. It pays to be up to date with happenings!
4. Make up your mind as to what type of mate you will actually be looking for, before you get into the dating scene. Remember, if you don't know what it is you are looking for, then you will certainly not get it!
5. Consider looking for love online. There are nowadays websites offering seniors dating services, and they make a fantastic place where you can be sure of finding people with similar interests to yours; which is important given that the coincidence of needs is one of the keys to things like successful dating.
6. Avoid desperation. Remember, wisdom abhors desperation, and wisdom is something you should have surely accumulated over the years. You may find yourself getting slightly desperate like when you are unable to attract a date as fast as you did in your earlier years. Yet such desperation is a major turn off that could drive other potential dates who were just bidding their time trying to figure you out away from, having seen that you are just a desperado.
7. Have an exit strategy from the dating game if you are unable to find success there. The reality of the matter is that at the end of the day, you might not be able to find what you are looking for in the dating scene, and you should not let this devastate you, as there are many other sources of joy in life, besides the companionship and intimacy that romantic love offers. Hopefully though, with proper observance of the first six of the 7 dating tips for seniors, you may have to put the seventh into practice, though it helps to have it beforehand all the same.
by jamie gram
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Meet the Love of Your Life in 6 Minutes
You may have seen speed dating in the movies Hitch or the 40 year old virgin. Now it is a new craze that is sweeping the country and people of all races, creeds and religion are holding speed dating events or speed dating parties for the singles set.
No more hanging out at bars or being fixed up with a blind date that makes you want to run the minute you see them.
Although it is called speed dating it isn't really a date, it's more like an interview so you are not stuck with someone that you are dying to get away from for an entire evening. The way speed dating works:
Usually anywhere from 6 to 40 people are involved, divided equally by sex. Each woman sits at a separate table and the men move from one table to another. They spend 6 minutes with each other and at the end of the time period a whistle is blown and the man moves on to the next table and woman.
During the allotted time period you can ask questions and get to know each other. Six minutes might not seem like very long to get to know a person but it is plenty of time to see if there is any chemistry between you. The getting to know better can come later.
At the end of the evening if there is someone you would like to get to know better, you turn in a card with their number on it. Now the hitch here is that the other person has to turn in your number too. Of course you can arrange this if you are both agreeable at the table during your 6 minutes.
What happens then is that you are given a way to contact the other person. This is usually done by email for further safety and privacy. This way you can set up a date and take the budding romance from there. Speed dating has been the answer for many people, why not you?
by hl archer
No more hanging out at bars or being fixed up with a blind date that makes you want to run the minute you see them.
Although it is called speed dating it isn't really a date, it's more like an interview so you are not stuck with someone that you are dying to get away from for an entire evening. The way speed dating works:
Usually anywhere from 6 to 40 people are involved, divided equally by sex. Each woman sits at a separate table and the men move from one table to another. They spend 6 minutes with each other and at the end of the time period a whistle is blown and the man moves on to the next table and woman.
During the allotted time period you can ask questions and get to know each other. Six minutes might not seem like very long to get to know a person but it is plenty of time to see if there is any chemistry between you. The getting to know better can come later.
At the end of the evening if there is someone you would like to get to know better, you turn in a card with their number on it. Now the hitch here is that the other person has to turn in your number too. Of course you can arrange this if you are both agreeable at the table during your 6 minutes.
What happens then is that you are given a way to contact the other person. This is usually done by email for further safety and privacy. This way you can set up a date and take the budding romance from there. Speed dating has been the answer for many people, why not you?
by hl archer
The Secret to Baby Boomer Dating Success, Part 1 - 3 Questions You Must Ask
Are you newly divorced, widowed or single? Thinking of diving (or wading) back into dating? What used to feel like a pool can now feel like an ocean, leaving you feeling out of the loop. Instead of throwing in the towel by settling for a fixed Saturday night date with your favorite hunks--Ben&Jerry's or a solitary dinner, here's a powerful way to take charge and transform your love life from fizzling to sizzling!
As a savvy Boomer you should be objective. How will you start dating or find a partner if you don't get back in the pool--on or offline? Don't waste time swimming in circles!
I have been in the dating pool myself and have helped countless Baby Boomers start dating again successfully after divorce, the loss of a partner or years of solitude. So I understand it can be pretty intimidating, especially if all you have heard are disaster stories, one after the other.
Avoid (or lessen) the cold water shock and the struggle so many Baby Boomers, like yourself, are experiencing when it comes to testing the dating waters again. Taking the time to prepare yourself before taking that dive or dipping your toes in the pool will make a huge difference in your dating experience.
Now grab a pen and some paper. Jot down the vital point I am about to reveal. It will literally determine if your love life sinks or swims.
Savvy Baby Boomers get help.
If you want to start enjoying a great dating life and get concrete results, you should invest in yourself and get help. Especially if your love life is in a rut. Get a like-minded, positive friend to help you.
If you are looking for quicker results and are willing to invest in yourself, then a mentor or coach can help you move a head leaps and bounds. Your success rate skyrockets when you do so.
Here are the benefits of having a great mentor or coach:
* Getting crystal clear about what you want and what you do not want.
* Overcoming obstacles that stand in the way of you having a successful love life.
* Putting together an action plan based on your comfort zone.
* Inspiring you, keeping you on track and giving you support when you need it.
* Providing wisdom to get the best out of your experience and avoid pitfalls.
So what if you are not ready to invest in a mentor or coach? No worries! Here is what you can do to start taking charge of your love life today. Use that pen and paper I asked you to grab and take 15 minutes to answer the following questions:
1. What do I want my life to look like? This is a great question to ask yourself when you are not quite sure what you want. It should be easier to describe what you want your life to look like. For example: I want to have a few romantic dates each week. I want to share my love for theatre with my new partner.
2. How do I want to be treated by my date or new partner? How do I want to feel about my new lifestyle or relationship? When you know how you want to feel, you are unlikely to settle for treatment that is not what you want. For example: I feel safe, loved and respected in my new relationship.
3. What challenges are keeping me back? Knowing what your challenges are will help you see clearly and take the action steps needed to get your love life back on track.
This exercise has saved clients I have worked with from wasting precious time with incompatible people, time-wasters and bad dates. Following these two points will greatly increase your chances of finding a great date or wonderful new partner in less time.
by rhonda j
As a savvy Boomer you should be objective. How will you start dating or find a partner if you don't get back in the pool--on or offline? Don't waste time swimming in circles!
I have been in the dating pool myself and have helped countless Baby Boomers start dating again successfully after divorce, the loss of a partner or years of solitude. So I understand it can be pretty intimidating, especially if all you have heard are disaster stories, one after the other.
Avoid (or lessen) the cold water shock and the struggle so many Baby Boomers, like yourself, are experiencing when it comes to testing the dating waters again. Taking the time to prepare yourself before taking that dive or dipping your toes in the pool will make a huge difference in your dating experience.
Now grab a pen and some paper. Jot down the vital point I am about to reveal. It will literally determine if your love life sinks or swims.
Savvy Baby Boomers get help.
If you want to start enjoying a great dating life and get concrete results, you should invest in yourself and get help. Especially if your love life is in a rut. Get a like-minded, positive friend to help you.
If you are looking for quicker results and are willing to invest in yourself, then a mentor or coach can help you move a head leaps and bounds. Your success rate skyrockets when you do so.
Here are the benefits of having a great mentor or coach:
* Getting crystal clear about what you want and what you do not want.
* Overcoming obstacles that stand in the way of you having a successful love life.
* Putting together an action plan based on your comfort zone.
* Inspiring you, keeping you on track and giving you support when you need it.
* Providing wisdom to get the best out of your experience and avoid pitfalls.
So what if you are not ready to invest in a mentor or coach? No worries! Here is what you can do to start taking charge of your love life today. Use that pen and paper I asked you to grab and take 15 minutes to answer the following questions:
1. What do I want my life to look like? This is a great question to ask yourself when you are not quite sure what you want. It should be easier to describe what you want your life to look like. For example: I want to have a few romantic dates each week. I want to share my love for theatre with my new partner.
2. How do I want to be treated by my date or new partner? How do I want to feel about my new lifestyle or relationship? When you know how you want to feel, you are unlikely to settle for treatment that is not what you want. For example: I feel safe, loved and respected in my new relationship.
3. What challenges are keeping me back? Knowing what your challenges are will help you see clearly and take the action steps needed to get your love life back on track.
This exercise has saved clients I have worked with from wasting precious time with incompatible people, time-wasters and bad dates. Following these two points will greatly increase your chances of finding a great date or wonderful new partner in less time.
by rhonda j
Dating For Parents!
If you are a single parent at the moment and looking for the usual companionship, dating, and perhaps possible romance online, then I can assure you that you're in the right place! The internet has been an effective tool on dating for parents and if you know how to use it to your advantage, it will benefit you greatly!
However, be reminded of that timeless saying, "look before you leap!"
Remember, as a parent, you also have some responsibilities on your side to fulfil, and you want to make sure that you don't get sidetracked between your needs, your responsibilities, and the bigger picture that's involved.
1. Consider the facts how a change in your "lifestyle" will impact your children. - Especially if you haven't been involved in the dating scene for quite a long time. A study from one university mentioned that "the more transitions children go through in their living situation, the more likely they are to act out." Before you leap into the "dating for parents" pool, be sure that you're aware of the possibilities how it can affect your children beforehand. This is a good thing because from the start you can be responsible enough to manage it, and make the adjustments necessary on your part.
2. Weigh your options. - And I'm not talking about leaping from one partner online to another. That's a given already, and you should be responsible enough to make sure that the person you select interests you enough and if possible, is a good match for you. This is where dating for parents websites come in handy.
But this is the part where you weigh your options. You don't want to join every dating for parents website on the internet, and if I were you, I'd also stay from the free services - since there's a higher chance that the quality of the people there and your security may be compromised.
By Karl Anderson
However, be reminded of that timeless saying, "look before you leap!"
Remember, as a parent, you also have some responsibilities on your side to fulfil, and you want to make sure that you don't get sidetracked between your needs, your responsibilities, and the bigger picture that's involved.
1. Consider the facts how a change in your "lifestyle" will impact your children. - Especially if you haven't been involved in the dating scene for quite a long time. A study from one university mentioned that "the more transitions children go through in their living situation, the more likely they are to act out." Before you leap into the "dating for parents" pool, be sure that you're aware of the possibilities how it can affect your children beforehand. This is a good thing because from the start you can be responsible enough to manage it, and make the adjustments necessary on your part.
2. Weigh your options. - And I'm not talking about leaping from one partner online to another. That's a given already, and you should be responsible enough to make sure that the person you select interests you enough and if possible, is a good match for you. This is where dating for parents websites come in handy.
But this is the part where you weigh your options. You don't want to join every dating for parents website on the internet, and if I were you, I'd also stay from the free services - since there's a higher chance that the quality of the people there and your security may be compromised.
By Karl Anderson
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